Earlier this morning, this article was shared by a female friend on social media. It is one in a flood of recent articles complaining about how angry, naked feminist protesters with obscenities scribbled across their chests have wrecked what “true” feminism was supposedly about.
It’s pretty standard stuff, and many of me and Mychaels female friends express the basic sentiment regularly. And many of them read here.
I want to start by asking are you really “over” feminism? Or you are annoyed that feminism has followed its natural progression and born its teeth and true intentions in such an ugly way?
Here’s the thing–and this is a major piece of understanding what it really means to swallow the “red pill.” When taking in a biblical, historical arch of history, it is a categorization error to try and make a meaningful philosophical distinction between the various “waves” of feminism. And there are many of us who have finally woken up to this fact.
Because even though modern feminists are more obnoxious than some of what we have seen in the past, the basic catalyst for all of its chosen battles and victories has been the same. Namely, envy of the perceived “unearned” privileges that men have, until recently, enjoyed in their families, their communities and the society at large. The curse placed on women when Eve was kicked out of the garden was that she would do this. Her desire was to “rule over” man. And remember, she was taken in by the possibility of being “like” God, the ultimate “man” in the picture.
Do men have unearned privilege? Did they ever? Considering that the vast majority of the civilized worlds battlefields and industrial accidents are filled with the corpses of men, I would argue that whatever privilege there was, was earned indeed. All of those deaths happened to provide women and children with a stable, easy, lifestyle. And consider the evidence of the curse that is involved–the desire is to have all this privilege without the commensurate risk and accountability that goes with it. Women obtained the vote and a decent level of involvement in every aspect of running the country but are still not required to register for the Selective Service. They complain about the “wage gap” but are not clamoring for entrance into some of the highest paying professions in the country because they are in the trades. These come with the risks associated with working around dangerous chemicals, explosions, construction sites, heavy equipment, high places etc. Icky, dirty, hazardous stuff. They sit in air-conditioned office buildings and fail to notice that the building was built by men who lost life and limb doing so, or even that the person dangling on the scaffolding outside cleaning the window is probably a man. There are two sets of physical fitness standards in the military (which is tied to promotion). Easy access to abortion (sex without consequences) birth control (sex without consequences) and a total dominance in the divorce and custody system are considered sacraments in the religion of feminism–and even conservative “feminists” believe this. And on and on it goes.
So, if you are one of those women who read here, and are wondering why this sudden annoyance with feminism rings hollow for many of today’s men, let me help.
To begin– understand, as Dr. Helen Smith has been documenting for several years now, that the incentives for men to get married are gone. Dr. Helen is a clinical psychologist (forensic sub-specialty) by trade and has written a book about why the marriage rate is falling from the mans perspective. It’s called Men on Strike.
Next, there is evidence that the entire civilized world is organized in such a way as to make the female reproductive strategy the dominant force. This blogger has been writing about it for several years now. The idea is that based purely on biological realities and drives it makes sense to preserve and protect eggs over sperm, since they are, in pure market terms more valuable. Christians generally reject this as the only model for understanding human sexual behavior–see “Dalrock” below.
The youtuber “Turd Flinging Monkey”a MGTOW guy drew attention to himself by critiquing the PragerU videos about masculinity, as did I, here. These folks cannot help but continue to double down on men emulating the 1950s “Ward Cleaver” archetype because they refuse to acknowledge that the America of the previous decades (the 20s, 30s and 40s) also produced a fairly good supply of “June Cleavers” for him. And the entire culture supported this form of marriage. It is no longer realistically available to the average man.
The entire military mental health profession is totally dumbfounded by the rising suicide rates among our ranks, yet can’t seem to put 2 and 2 together. The data clearly shows that the most accurate profile of a “typical” military suicide is a male soldier who’s wife has taken all his stuff, his children and a good portion of his future earnings. So he feels hopeless and ends his life. It’s the Occams Razor (most reasonable and intuitive) explanation but is obscured by the cultural disconnect. This data extrapolates into the general population quite well. And why not, the entire system is designed to encourage this behavior. See here:
The aforementioned Turd Flinging Monkey actually has a theoretical model for this based on the Kubler-Ross stages of grief:
Finally, the Dalrock blog has been the singular most powerful force in synthesizing all this data from a Christian perspective and trying to sift out what the right response to it is–in particular for married fathers, but his stuff is valuable for everyone. He gives a Christian context and actionable information to a seemingly impossible cultural narrative.
Feminism has accomplished basically every one of its goals. It is not now in a new “wave” but rather shoring up the last bits of power for itself. It has infiltrated every aspect of our lives, including the church, the state and the culture.
*image copied from “The Father’s Rights” movement page.